True love is revealing. It peeks through the nooks and crannies of your heart, your spirit and your body to see who you really are, and in that, previous agendas are null and void. Once love penetrates, it will soften you, and make you vulnerable. Your true self will surface – but you must LET it! If you deny this, in any way, pure love cannot fully work. To receive love, you must open yourself. In that opening you will rediscover long lost pains, awarenesses, secrets and memories of love gone by. It can be painful, but not to be avoided, as this is the place of healing. Hiding, manipulating, or being dishonest blocks pure love from flowing in OR out. To give love, you must offer it freely, with no pre-conceived ideas or expectations, accepting and nurturing what you see…and your heart will be healed.
The healing Gift of Love allows ourselves to be loved in whatever condition we arrive. True love can do this, selfish love cannot. Unconditional love can do this, judgemental love cannot. With pure love, the pains of the past start to disappear. The coldness of your heart begins to melt. Resentments give way to forgiveness. And comfort soothes the loneliness. To be on the receiving or giving end of this blissful love doesn’t matter. Many say, “You must first love yourself before you can love another.” I say it usually happens at the same time.
That is an age-old question. Cave men had it made. They firmly believed in kidnapping and taking their date to a filthy cave out in the middle of nowhere. Those were what was known as the good old days. Now days first date destinations and plans are a little trickier. First let’s cover where NOT to go on a first date.
The old standby of dinner and a movie is a really poor choice for a first date. How will you get to know the lady if you are sitting in a darkened theater with a movie being shown? If you choose the movie, there is probably going to be a lot of frantic car chases and a lot of blood involved. Neither are conducive to creating a memorable evening.
Also, don’t take your date to your parent’s house! She will know right away that you are a mama’s boy and you will never see her again.
Don’t take your date to a sleazy bar with a motel out back. You will scare the poor woman to death. She will jump out of the car and hitchhike back to town believing that she would be safer with a burly truck driver than with you.
Now, some good first date ideas are:
Begin with a simple lunch or coffee date. You want to keep the date casual so suggesting meeting up for lunch or coffee can be a good start. This way, if the date didn’t go so well, you can end the date there but if you enjoy each other company, you have the rest of the day to spend getting to know each other better.
Here are some ideas of where to go if the lunch or coffee date tells you’re there is some good chemistry happening:
If it is the season, an amusement park or a theme park is a good first date idea. It doesn’t matter how old you are, we can all be big kids at heart. There are so much you can do at amusement parks and theme parks that most likely you will forget about the dating pressure and just have fun.
Most well populated areas have an array of museums covering many different subjects. Visiting one that is dedicated to something that you have in common with the woman is another good first date idea.