Do you want to find real love? Maybe you have already found it. Maybe you have lost it. A lot of people have only a vague idea of what love is. Some have no idea at all. Some say that love is not so much the emotional, passionate or romantic ideals that we are bombarded with everyday (although that is a part of it), but more of a commitment to someone special for a lifetime. For most people falling in love means having strong, close, warm, intoxicating feelings. When these feelings pass, they feel that the love is gone. Nothing can be further from the truth. When these feelings pass (as all feelings do) that is the point at which the love can begin. Read on and learn how to find real love in your life.

This love has its genesis in doing. It is not a state of fantasy, but a process of action that is sincere and ever present. It starts with ourselves, and extends out to others. It is not love that we are fishing for, but feelings that we are giving to others. This kind of love, which won’t fail, is built upon your actions of worth. When we fill our lives, and our actions towards others, with things of value, things that we can respect – actions towards them and ourselves that are loving, respectful, generous, kind, love happens right then. The more actions of this kind that we take towards others and towards ourselves the stronger our foundation of love becomes. No matter how the other is behaving, we can always respond with an action of worth – with a kind word, a moment of forgiveness, a hug, with seeing the vision. We can open our hands and offer life to them, rather than close our hands and our hearts, embrace and comfort them in a special place.

True love is revealing. It peeks through the nooks and crannies of your heart, your spirit and your body to see who you really are, and in that, previous agendas are null and void. Once love penetrates, it will soften you, and make you vulnerable. Your true self will surface – but you must LET it! If you deny this, in any way, pure love cannot fully work. To receive love, you must open yourself. In that opening you will rediscover long lost pains, awarenesses, secrets and memories of love gone by. It can be painful, but not to be avoided, as this is the place of healing. Hiding, manipulating, or being dishonest blocks pure love from flowing in OR out. To give love, you must offer it freely, with no pre-conceived ideas or expectations, accepting and nurturing what you see…and your heart will be healed.

The healing Gift of Love allows ourselves to be loved in whatever condition we arrive. True love can do this, selfish love cannot. Unconditional love can do this, judgemental love cannot. With pure love, the pains of the past start to disappear. The coldness of your heart begins to melt. Resentments give way to forgiveness. And comfort soothes the loneliness. To be on the receiving or giving end of this blissful love doesn’t matter. Many say, “You must first love yourself before you can love another.” I say it usually happens at the same time.